Tip #108: Indulge in a moment of solitude.
At the time of writing it’s after dinnertime on a weeknight, only there’s not yet been any dinner. I am sitting by myself in an apartment that’s getting dark, but the half-light feels right for the mood I’m in, which is a quiet one.
James is on a walk with Faye. She’s a wriggly little bundle tonight, all gas and bubbles and the tiniest little frown on red cherry lips that you’ve ever seen. She needed a walk. To just get out from these four walls for a minute. And I needed to be alone in them. Just me and the whir of the ceiling fan and the room darkening around me.
One of the most emailed questions I receive is about how to gain a sense of quiet in a tiny apartment that you share with someone else. And while getting out of the apartment is a pretty good bet for clearing your mind, sometimes it’s staying inside that feels just as good. And it’s as simple as telling the people that you love that you need a few minutes to yourself.
It’s the new mom in me speaking, no doubt. Having spent much of the last few years working at least partially from home, being alone in our apartment was not an infrequent occurence. But lately, I’ve come to crave the moments when it’s just me. I’m not about to go hermit on you and make for the woods, but I do think it’s worth carving out a little time to be alone in your space. Tell your husband to take a walk with the baby; ask your girlfriend to sit on the church stoop while she calls her mom; figure out when your roomate is coming home and arrive an hour before him. Dare I suggest you pour yourself a glass of rosé and really relish in it? Yes.
However you spend them, steal a few quiet minutes for yourself and feel everything reset.
Tiny apartment survival tips # 1 – 107, right here.