habit shift

  • election checklist, week two.

    We have 92 days until the 2020 election in the US. That’s 13 weeks during which I’ll be trying my damnedest to get leaders elected who will move the dial toward equity, inclusion, and…

    August 3, 2020 2 Comments
  • habit shift: safety razors.

    When I was ten I shaved my legs for the first time. In defiance of the arbitrary mandate from my mother that I was not to do so until the eighth grade, I borrowed…

    July 30, 2020 33 Comments
  • election checklist, week one.

    We have 99 days until the 2020 election in the US. That’s 14 weeks during which I’ll be trying my damnedest to get leaders elected who will move the dial toward equity, inclusion, and…

    July 27, 2020 10 Comments
  • habit shift: protect each other.

    I’ve been thinking relentlessly, maybe obsessively, about the concept of protection; questioning who gets protected, what gets protected, and especially who folks rely on to do the protecting for them? Police? Policy? What’s protection…

    June 17, 2020 15 Comments
  • habit shift: wearing a face mask.

    As a child, my grandfather lived above an undertaker’s shop on West 25th Street. The building, like my grandfather, is no longer with us, but my uncle sent a photograph of it this week,…

    May 6, 2020 17 Comments
  • habit shift: social distancing.

    Calder is officially one month old. She’s smack in the middle of the sleepy newborn stage, all snorts and stretches and very tiny yawns. She snoozes on our bellies in the daytime like a…

    March 16, 2020 30 Comments
  • habit shift: morning routine.

    We’ve entered the age of the frenzied morning. We had a whole year of school mornings and tumbling out the door together under our belt when this school year started, but we’ve also got…

    October 2, 2019 25 Comments
  • habit shift: buy nothing.

    In Brooklyn, a stoop is not just a noun, but also a verb. To “stoop” something is colloquially understood to mean the act of setting something out on a stoop, or sidewalk, with the…

    June 3, 2019 40 Comments
  • habit shift: unshaven armpits.

    I shaved my armpits, more or less every few days, for the better part of twenty-two years. This winter, I stopped. I was curious. I wanted to see, for the first time ever, what…

    May 6, 2019 123 Comments
  • habit shift: brushing my face.

    I’ve been brushing my face. I thought you should know. I’ve been brushing it dry, using gentle upward strokes. Brushing my neck, too. And what other women might refer to as their décolletage, but…

    April 2, 2019 31 Comments