my week in objects (mostly).

    January 22, 2021

    1. this headband.

    {not to jinx anything, but it’s been days since i’ve seen the bow.}

    2. this moon calendar.

    {and our nightly moon watch.}

    3. this shower curtain.

    {and surrendering to the fact that it’s gonna serve as a blackout curtain for awhile.}

    4. this ARC.

    {of my mom’s new book, blowing into bookstores this march.}

    5. this lamp.

    {and test-driving a bedside solution.}

    other things:

    holding space.

    is it BS?

    it is the precedent of this “unprecedented” time that reveals the power of people against prejudice and pandemics alike.

    deplatforming works.

    are they ready?

    accept the reality of what has happened.

    the lives of east end.

    get curious.

    the mittenology of it all.


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    simple stuff: a kitchen trash can.

    January 21, 2021

    I have purchased a kitchen trash can. It’s a 4-gallon can that may or may not be considered the proper size for a family of five, but it’s clocking in at about 4 times the size of what we had before and sometimes I don’t quite realize how difficult I’ve made a simple task until I improve it.

    In the scheme of things, finding a suitable trash can sounds—and is—a very small victory. But having a clean and functional spot to dispose of the day’s literal garbage, I’ve found, is actually rather impactful. (If only I had such a perfect place to put the figurative garbage.) With a slightly bigger can, there’s been a reprieve from cleaning up after a four- and six-year-old who overshoot the tiny trash basket six or seven times a day. And in a sea of kitchen trash cans that appear to be over-designed and under-performing, I was glad to find something so simple.

    From a design perspective, the trash can is a classic beauty in a just-plain-fancy kind of way. It’s made of powder-coated stainless steel and solid as can be, with a removable galvanized steel bucket on the inside. The whole thing is satisfyingly slim on plastic and feels built to last a lifetime. (It also meets OSHA standards for safe disposal of blood borne pathogens, in case that is something you’re looking for in a trash can!) A cursory look into the manufacturer, Witt Industries in Ohio, tells me the company has been churning out this kind of practical workhorse since the late 1800s. No surprise, I especially like that it complements our vintage stove. It doesn’t do anything to improve the tacked on vinyl floor or the stained formica countertops, but it holds its own in making the whole kitchen feel a whole lot better and what more could I ask of a trash can?

    From a trash perspective, it feels like a more manageable size in terms of family output and frequency of emptying but it’s not so large that things get gnarly. Pandemic budget cuts continue to lay waste to our city’s composting efforts, but collections have resumed at our local greenmarket and so despite the fact that in a moment of weakness—or maybe just exhaustion—we emptied our indoor compost bin into a patch of garden out front, we’re still collecting our food scraps in the freezer. When there’s the time and stores of energy, we bring them to the farmer’s market collection site.

    And that’s that. One simple thing that’s improving life around here a bit. If a retro, barebones, step-on trash can is something that would improve your life, here’s the one I found: 2-Piece 4-Gallon Witt Industries Step On Trash Can*.

    * I won’t pretend that I understand how Wayfair operates, but it seems to me like the price changes daily and it was a full $10 less expensive when I bought it, so do with that what you will! And! If you don’t care about trash cans but you do like smart podcasts, don’t miss this excellent episode of You’re Wrong About.)

    What about you? Any examples of very simple stuff making life a little easier for you these days?


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    small improvements: paint the trim.

    January 19, 2021

    I’ll try my best to manage expectations from the get-go: This is not a post about stripping your trim or unearthing your crown moldings or restoring your fluted door frames to their original glory. It’s about making the best of a very common and not so great situation, which is grimy trim. In improving trim, and other things, we’re neither starting from, nor ending at a place of perfection. As with all home projects, possibilities for how you might further improve your trim depends on your budget, your know-how, and your vested interest. Since this is a series about simple improvements, I’m here to tell you that very simply cleaning and painting trim with a fresh coat of new paint can be a fuss-free and relatively inexpensive game changer for a lackluster room.

    Anyone who’s lived in an old building is likely familiar with the phenomenon of the trims of many colors. Wood molding in apartments (especially ones that have been rentals for many years) can have layers upon layers of paint in coats so thick that the original details of the woodwork have gone soft. Accidentally ram a piece of furniture into the molding of homes like these and you’ll get a bull’s eye of paint layers, four or five or six colors deep. It’s by design that trim is used in high traffic areas, so it stands to reason that it’s also a place that will eventually look worse for wear.

    Beyond heavy traffic, trim and moldings are also places where internet cables get tacked (and sometimes painted over), where phone jacks were once (or remain) mounted, where dust and particulate matter of questionable origin settle. People lean their bums against low window-frames, children scale tall doorframes and sit in windowsills with dirty feet, coffee cups and potted plants find their perch and leave their mark. In an effort to clean things up a bit, well-meaning landlords or tenants touch up trim with paint that doesn’t quite match the finish or the color that was there before. Drips are left to dry, putty is left unsanded, and the resulting trim is so hodgepodged that it’s impossible to discern the dirt from the paint or the beginning from the end.

    From a distance, or in photographs, you can hardly notice the mess, and so I think that lots of folks just continue to neglect it. But the overall impact of actually living in a room with dingy, dirty trim can be pretty significant. A simple scrub and a thorough, fresh coat of paint changes the feeling of a room the way that dusting a dresser top does. You don’t realize how drab things look until you do something to improve them! For me, painting trim is often one of the first things I try to tackle when I move somewhere new.

    In no particular order, a few notes and tips for tackling this particular small improvement:


    Caution: If you find yourself with trim that’s in truly terrible shape and you’re tempted to sand or strip or otherwise do anything more than clean it and paint over it, this is a job you should probably relegate to a professional. Lead was mixed into oil-based paints in the US until it was banned from household paints in 1978. Lead can cause considerable developmental impairments and it especially dangerous for young children. (I wrote all about lead paint here, should you like to learn more about my own experience.) Unless you know for certain that a house or apartment underwent a full lead paint removal, you should assume that there’s lead paint lurking among the layers. The good news is that covering that paint is a safe and effective way to mitigate the harm it could otherwise cause. The bad news is, you can’t sand or strip lead paint without considerable safety procedures in place. TL;DR: Don’t scrape or sand old paint.

    Cleaning: When was the last time you deep cleaned your trim? If you don’t have it in you to paint, remember how far a bit of elbow grease will get you. I tend to use diluted Sal Suds for this: a teaspoon or so poured into a bucket of warm water is just right. I usually use a damp cloth baby diaper or another soft absorbent rag to remove the dust and dirt that’s piled up, followed by a dry one so there’s not too much moisture left hanging around. An old toothbrush can be handy for getting into cracks and crevices.

    Priming: Because I don’t want to disturb any potential lead paint, I don’t sand my trim, even lightly, before painting. That said, if you’re dealing with trim that has a particularly glossy finish and you’re worried about the new paint adhering well, I strongly recommend starting with Stix Primer from Benjamin Moore. I recently used it to paint directly over stained wood doors and it bonds exceedingly well. (I’ve got my sights on our kitchen cabinets next.) While it’s not exactly an eco-friendly product, it is low-VOC and water-based and I’ve found it to be really great to work with and not very smelly at all. As ever, throw open your windows when painting, even when using low- or no-VOC paint.


    Cutting in: If you’re painting your trim in a different color or finish from the rest of your room, consider cutting in, slowly, by hand. You heard it here: painter’s tape is the worst. I think it can sometimes do a pretty good job on projects where there are not multiple layers of old paint and where everything is plumb and perfect, but that’s about it. Better, in my opinion, to hold your brush as steady as possible, use a small brush with a sharp angle, and breathe slowly and carefully while trying your best to paint a straight line. (Kate Oliver of Birch & Pine recently recommended small rubber-handled brushes to me for extra control and I think I might try one next!)

    Paint finishes: Higher gloss paints are more resistant to dirt and traffic and easier to clean than other finishes. I’ve often used semi-gloss on trim in the past, but in my this apartment I’ve been using Farrow & Ball’s Modern Eggshell* finish instead. It’s still durable and washable, but I’m really loving how it’s not as shiny as a semi-gloss. In our dining room, shown here, the trim and wall color are the same—Farrow & Ball All White—but I’ve used their Modern Eggshell finish on the trim and their Modern Emulsion finish on the walls.

    Painting trim is a nice place to start because it can be done relatively piecemeal without too much trouble. I tend to use old 32-ounce yogurt containers for pouring a small portion of paint and I try to tackle what I can in the time I have: one wall of baseboard or one door frame or one windowsill begging for attention.

    What about you? Where would you start?

    * Farrow & Ball has generously supplied the paint for the projects mentioned here.

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